; have I found “the one”?
I’m pretty sure that this question plagues more than one mind.
No matter if you are single, attached or married, there are times when this question just pops up in your mind.
There have been various concepts or theories, on how you can tell whether the person you have in mind is the person you are ‘supposed’ to be with.
And some of them include a list of qualities that would make them the ideal ‘husband’, or ‘someone you should never let go of’.
Others say that you’ll know once you meet the right person.
But honestly, how would one know?
Let’s say you’ve had a long term relationship with someone that did not work out in the end, are you not going to search for another person?
I personally feel that there’s no one person who is the right person.
We can feel attracted to numerous different people. We can be close to numerous different people.
How sure can you be, that you have chosen the right person for you?
It is simple to identify who we love. Yet it is not simple to identify the ‘ultimate’ partner we will end up with.
Nowadays, people tend to assess their potential partners based on all the little factors before getting together with them.
Which means, if you don’t have a house, don’t have a car or don’t have a job, you’re out of the game.
Though love is simple, we make it so complicated by mixing in all these other factors prematurely.
I think that even if you are searching for a lifelong partner, you should get to know of these little factors overtime, and not bombard your potential boyfriend with 101 questions about their bank account or other properties they may have.
Because one, they will have the impression that you’re just a gold digger and not wife material. And two, they will never see you as an equal.
So in my opinion, we should all just forget about what the media shows you.
I’m not saying that you should not have standards, it is good that you know what you want. But do not be obsessed with what is shown online.
Write your own love story!!
Be honest with yourself and others. Someone will love you for you, just count on that 😀 Just have lots of fun, it is okay to make mistakes, but just remember to clear up any misunderstandings!
I wish all of you the best of luck ❤